just checked your webside at practicalilliosions.com (because I'm nosy) and I noticed that your "home" link goes to the old domain
From: "Mail, After" <AE-List@media-motion.tv>
To: "Mail, After" <AE-List@media-motion.tv>
Sent: Tuesday, May 27, 2014 2:24:39 PM
Subject: [AE] new email address, steveoakley.net domain being held hostage
If any of you have sent me email to my 12 year old email address
steveo@practicali.com over the last 2 weeks, I never got it. I nearly missed a day of work this week over the problem. please use my new email address
steveo@practicalillusions.com and remove the old one.
now let me explain why and whats going on :
my ex business partner ( whom you may of met @ MMB ) went and registered some of my domains against my wishes as a "favor" a couple years ago. It was all well and good while things where running ok. for many years they where ok. about six months ago when I decided some changes had to happen. Initially those changes where simply to cut office expenses nearly in 1/2 which was good.
Eventually a few months ago it became apparent that the best thing to do was to part company. I did the office move out for many reasons including perhaps the most basic : it was costing me money, not making me money ! never mind the office environment simply wasn't good for my mental health or doing quality work. It was also a reflection of the very changing nature of where my work is going, quite literally all over the state. Its lots of location work doing shooting / sound / lighting. editing clients were all working remotely with web previews / FTP / webex / iChat ect and just not coming into the office. why should they when there are more convenient ways of working ? Needless to say my "ex" didn't take things so well, especially over the last month or so when I moved out of the office and decided I no longer wanted to work a business together. I had been back and forth on that right up until I finally told him. I did in fact do right by the landlord properly breaking my part of the lease, paid a penalty, I was out on time , new tenant took my space the next day, and we are all ok.
At this point my domains are being held hostage by him. I was hoping they would be transferred over to me in the last week or so, but that has not happened. this was just part of some things to finish up to be clear of each other. these were pretty simple / easy things. I took care of everything I needed to, but he has failed to take care of his end. I have handled this on a most professional, mature, legal, financial, personally responsible way for all parties involved. he simply has not. my real divorce went easy, we ( my ex wife ) are even on good speaking terms. Not so here unfortunately.
I have several options, none of them fast or cheap to get back my domains. Yes eventually I can recover those costs but it could turn into a 1-2 year process. I'm hoping that one process I've started will come thru over the next day or two and get things right, we'll see.
Why post my "dirty laundry" publicly ?
my own person self preservation first off all - if any one got some weird email from my old email account over the last 2 weeks, it really _wasn't_ me !
second my reputation which I value the most. I hate rumors and wanted to dispel any that might of been floating out there.
third as a reminder that even the best of intentions may go bad. you should always, no matter what, have a CYA plan in place... like backup domain name, backup email accounts ( I had 2 which are secure ) and not allow business situations / arrangements that can bite you in the end. a business continuity plan should also be in place to cover those major what-if situations.
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I'm truly not interested anything except getting my domains back, having my content removed from a site he controls and having this over with ASAP.
I don't wish my 'ex' ill will but that he learn from this to be a better person better able to handle situations that aren't always easy with grace and respect.