From: "Daniel Monro" Received: from st11p02mm-asmtp001.mac.com ([17.172.220.236] verified) by media-motion.tv (CommuniGate Pro SMTP 4.2.10) with ESMTP id 5486644 for AE-List@media-motion.tv; Wed, 28 May 2014 05:36:40 +0200 MIME-version: 1.0 Content-type: multipart/alternative; boundary="Boundary_(ID_JzvHgnpXiDvyEGDzUVUGug)" Received: from [10.0.0.5] (c-71-236-20-205.hsd1.ga.comcast.net [71.236.20.205]) by st11p02mm-asmtp001.mac.com (Oracle Communications Messaging Server 7u4-27.08(7.0.4.27.7) 64bit (built Aug 22 2013)) with ESMTPSA id <0N690084SM10GU50@st11p02mm-asmtp001.mac.com> for AE-List@media-motion.tv; Wed, 28 May 2014 03:36:38 +0000 (GMT) Message-id: Subject: Re: [AE] new email address, steveoakley.net domain being held hostage Date: Tue, 27 May 2014 23:36:36 -0400 References: To: After Effects Mail List In-reply-to: X-Mailer: Apple Mail (2.1510) X-MANTSH: 1TEIXWV4bG1oaGkdHB0lGUkdDRl5PWBoaEhEKTEMXGx0EGx0YBBIZBBsSEBseGh8 aEQpYTRdLEQptfhcaEQpMWRcbGhsbEQpZSRcRClleF2hjeREKQ04XSxsZGmJCH2lmHX9jGXhzB x55GhkZHEkYEQpYXBcZBBoEGxsHTU4fGBgYGUsFGx0EGx0YBBIZBBsSEBseGh8bEQpeWRdhX1w fQhEKTEYXYmtrEQpDWhcdGwQYGRwEGBoEGBofEQpCRhdjGHxpeHhZSHpbAREKQkUXYFBzGB5FX x9nQFkRCkJOF2hGQkAfSHkdRx9kEQpCTBdnHhp7ExgeXGRdGBEKQmwXZnx5TBsTeFpMSUsRCkJ AF25HbRhAeWlLHXAaEQpCWBdpYUNuZ1teeV5EchEKcGcXbU1HXEUfHlpfQlsRCnBoF2VnHR5+a xlme1xyEQpwaBdtY3hyWFN9cAFibREKcGgXZH1aZ0VpS1kdGkURCnBoF2NjT3pvaFtDGkNtEQp waBdiYBt4QB9tX0JoGhEKcGcXY3N6Y1lQbQV8Th4RCnBnF2lmEnpAEnhlcEgZEQpwbBdkUwV4H GFfTmRdSREKcEwXbmRJXB5hZxNIb28R X-CLX-Spam: false X-CLX-Score: 1011 X-Proofpoint-Virus-Version: vendor=fsecure engine=2.50.10432:5.11.96,1.0.14,0.0.0000 definitions=2014-05-28_01:2014-05-27,2014-05-28,1970-01-01 signatures=0 X-Proofpoint-Spam-Details: rule=notspam policy=default score=0 spamscore=0 suspectscore=0 phishscore=0 adultscore=0 bulkscore=0 classifier=spam adjust=0 reason=mlx scancount=1 engine=7.0.1-1402240000 definitions=main-1405280050 --Boundary_(ID_JzvHgnpXiDvyEGDzUVUGug) Content-type: text/plain; CHARSET=US-ASCII Content-transfer-encoding: quoted-printable Sorry to hear it, Steve. No practical advice, just empathy. I've been in = similar situations (Luckily, my wife has stuck with me lo these thirty = years...) D On TuesdayMay 272014, at 5:24 PM, Steve Oakley = wrote: > If any of you have sent me email to my 12 year old email address = steveo@practicali.com over the last 2 weeks, I never got it. I nearly = missed a day of work this week over the problem. please use my new email = address steveo@practicalillusions.com and remove the old one. >=20 > now let me explain why and whats going on : >=20 > my ex business partner ( whom you may of met @ MMB ) went and = registered some of my domains against my wishes as a "favor" a couple = years ago. It was all well and good while things where running ok. for = many years they where ok. about six months ago when I decided some = changes had to happen. Initially those changes where simply to cut = office expenses nearly in 1/2 which was good. >=20 > Eventually a few months ago it became apparent that the best thing to = do was to part company. I did the office move out for many reasons = including perhaps the most basic : it was costing me money, not making = me money ! never mind the office environment simply wasn't good for my = mental health or doing quality work. It was also a reflection of the = very changing nature of where my work is going, quite literally all over = the state. Its lots of location work doing shooting / sound / lighting. = editing clients were all working remotely with web previews / FTP / = webex / iChat ect and just not coming into the office. why should they = when there are more convenient ways of working ? Needless to say my = "ex" didn't take things so well, especially over the last month or so = when I moved out of the office and decided I no longer wanted to work a = business together. I had been back and forth on that right up until I = finally told him. I did in fact do right by the landlord properly = breaking my part of the lease, paid a penalty, I was out on time , new = tenant took my space the next day, and we are all ok. >=20 > At this point my domains are being held hostage by him. I was hoping = they would be transferred over to me in the last week or so, but that = has not happened. this was just part of some things to finish up to be = clear of each other. these were pretty simple / easy things. I took = care of everything I needed to, but he has failed to take care of his = end. I have handled this on a most professional, mature, legal, = financial, personally responsible way for all parties involved. he = simply has not. my real divorce went easy, we ( my ex wife ) are even on = good speaking terms. Not so here unfortunately. >=20 > I have several options, none of them fast or cheap to get back my = domains. Yes eventually I can recover those costs but it could turn into = a 1-2 year process. I'm hoping that one process I've started will come = thru over the next day or two and get things right, we'll see. >=20 > Why post my "dirty laundry" publicly ?=20 >=20 > my own person self preservation first off all - if any one got some = weird email from my old email account over the last 2 weeks, it really = _wasn't_ me ! >=20 > second my reputation which I value the most. I hate rumors and wanted = to dispel any that might of been floating out there. >=20 > third as a reminder that even the best of intentions may go bad. you = should always, no matter what, have a CYA plan in place... like backup = domain name, backup email accounts ( I had 2 which are secure ) and not = allow business situations / arrangements that can bite you in the end. a = business continuity plan should also be in place to cover those major = what-if situations. >=20 > -------- >=20 > I'm truly not interested anything except getting my domains back, = having my content removed from a site he controls and having this over = with ASAP. >=20 > I don't wish my 'ex' ill will but that he learn from this to be a = better person better able to handle situations that aren't always easy = with grace and respect.=20 >=20 >=20 > S >=20 >=20 >=20 >=20 --Boundary_(ID_JzvHgnpXiDvyEGDzUVUGug) Content-type: text/html; CHARSET=US-ASCII Content-transfer-encoding: quoted-printable Sorry = to hear it, Steve. No practical advice, just empathy. I've been in = similar situations (Luckily, my wife has stuck with me lo these thirty = years...)
D


On TuesdayMay = 272014, at 5:24 PM, Steve Oakley <AE-List@media-motion.tv> = wrote:

If any of you have sent me email to my 12 year = old email address steveo@practicali.com over the = last 2 weeks, I never got it. I nearly missed a day of work this week = over the problem. please use my new email address steveo@practicalillusions.co= m and remove the old one.

now let me = explain why and whats going on :

my ex business = partner ( whom you may of met @ MMB ) went and registered some of my = domains against my wishes as a "favor" a couple years ago. It was all = well and good while things where running ok. for many years they where = ok. about six months ago when I decided some changes had to happen. = Initially those changes where simply to cut office expenses nearly in = 1/2 which was good.

Eventually a few months ago = it became apparent that the best thing to do was to part company. I did = the office move out for many reasons including perhaps the most basic : = it was costing me money,  not making me money ! never mind the = office environment simply wasn't good for my mental health or doing = quality work. It was also a reflection of the very changing nature of = where my work is going, quite literally all over the state. Its lots of = location work doing shooting / sound / lighting. editing clients were = all working remotely with web previews / FTP / webex / iChat ect and = just not coming into the office. why should they when there are more = convenient ways of working ?  Needless to say my "ex" didn't take = things so well, especially over the last month or so when I moved out of = the office and decided I no longer wanted to work a business together. I = had been back and forth on that right up until I finally told him. I did = in fact do right by the landlord properly breaking my part of the lease, = paid a penalty, I was out on time , new tenant took my space the next = day, and we are all ok.

At this point my domains are = being held hostage by him. I was hoping they would be transferred over = to me in the last week or so, but that has not happened. this was just = part of some things to finish up to be clear of each other. these were = pretty simple / easy things.  I took care of everything I needed = to, but he has failed to take care of his end. I have handled this on a = most professional, mature, legal, financial, personally responsible way = for all parties involved. he simply has not. my real divorce went easy, = we ( my ex wife ) are even on good speaking terms. Not so here = unfortunately.

I have several options, none of = them fast or cheap to get back my domains. Yes eventually I can recover = those costs but it could turn into a 1-2 year process. I'm hoping that = one process I've started will come thru over the next day or two and get = things right, we'll see.

Why post my "dirty = laundry" publicly ? 

my own person self = preservation first off all - if any one got some weird email from my old = email account over the last 2 weeks, it really _wasn't_ me = !

second my reputation which I value the most. = I hate rumors and wanted to dispel any that might of been floating out = there.

third as a reminder that even the best = of intentions may go bad. you should always, no matter what, have a CYA = plan in place... like backup domain name, backup email accounts ( I had = 2 which are secure ) and not allow business situations / arrangements = that can bite you in the end. a business continuity plan should also be = in place to cover those major what-if = situations.

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I'm= truly not interested anything except getting my domains back, having my = content removed from a site he controls and having this over with = ASAP.

I don't wish my 'ex' ill will but that he = learn from this to be a better person better able to handle situations = that aren't always easy with grace and = respect. 


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